You aren’t as awkward as you think you are.
And hey, even if you are, we’ve got some great tips for you.
Music is everything
Don’t underestimate the power of a good playlist. It gives people something to talk about, dance to, and covers a lull in conversation. Start the music while you’re preparing dinner, well before your guests arrive. Let yourself jam out to your favorite tunes. It will calm your nerves and bring you out of the awkward zone.
Invite your chatty friend
You know the one. He or she could literally have a conversation with a house plant. At times this chatty friend can drive you nuts, but this is their time to shine. They will bring an endless supply of conversation topics. They won’t shut up so you can.
Ask another guest to be in charge
The MC is a close neighbor to the chatty friend. They like speaking to the crowd and make everyone feel at ease. Want to pass some conversation cards around? Have a group game? Let them own this part of the gathering. I bet they’ll enjoy it. And you’ll get to step out of the spotlight for a while.
Let it be
The anecdote for the awkward host is a relaxed atmosphere. Don’t feel like you have to plan out the whole night. Time for dessert, but your guests are really engaged in conversation? Wait until there is a natural lull to bring out those creme puffs. Paying attention to the vibe of the room will put yourself and your guests at ease.
Be ok with you
If you throw out all the other tips, follow this one. Your guests are coming because they LIKE you. Stepping into the role of host does not mean stepping out of your own skin. Even if you’re a little weird, chances are your guests can handle it. It’s ok if you aren’t the gregarious jokester. Let them see the real you. And if that’s a little awkward, it’s really ok.
This is one of those times I would much rather sit across from you face to face. I’d rather you were able to hear the tone of my voice, that my facial expression could speak deeper and truer than just words. Because this topic feels so tender to me lately. Disappointment has been an unexpected guest in our house for the last couple months and I was tempted to feel isolated in it. But then I started talking it out. After a few different conversations I realized every single one of us is dealing with disappointment in some way or another.
I’ve been mulling this post over and over in my mind for weeks now. Can I be honest with you right off the bat? I’m terrified to let my work self and my mom self collide. I’m terrified to offend you or discourage you, that you might think differently of my work, or judge me as a soon-to-be mother. The role of mom vs/and the role of career is one of the most tender topics women face.